OPINION: Ask People with Memory Loss about Past Holidays to Help Them Recall Happy Times

Asking a person who is memory impaired to tell stories from bygone holidays may help trigger a happy memory. Photo courtesy Lucky Business/Shutterstock.com

Asking a person who is memory impaired to tell stories from bygone holidays may help trigger a happy memory. Photo courtesy Lucky Business/Shutterstock.com


Mary E. Dozier


Michael R. Nadorff

Many people love the holidays because they are a time to make happy memories with loved ones. But what if you could do something to help restore memories in some of the people you love?

Using a process called reminiscence therapy, that may be possible. In reminiscence therapy, elders are encouraged to discuss memories across their lifespan, particularly memories of positive experiences.

As researchers who specialize in gero-psychology, and in preparation for the holidays, we wanted to explain this technique and encourage readers to use this evidence-based approach to connect with loved ones with impaired memory and dementia.

Benefits of Happy Memories

Nearly 9% of American adults aged 65 and older meet criteria for dementia. Family members often function as formal and informal caregivers for loved ones who develop dementia, and these caregivers can experience a range of physical and psychological outcomes.

It typically involves asking the person about different events from particular times in the person's life.

Around the holidays, older adults may already be primed to discuss holiday-themed memories due to the influx of sensory cues, including the twinkling of holiday decorations, the smell of holiday cookies, and of course, seasonal music.

An analysis of several studies on research on reminiscence therapy for 
dementia suggests that it can improve quality of life, communication and mood. Individuals who engage in reminiscence therapy with their loved ones report that the experience is generally positive for them, too, and can be an effective coping strategy when other communication becomes difficult.

Another study found that caregivers reported feeling more emotionally close with their loved ones with dementia when practicing reminiscence therapy. Also, they reported lower informal care costs than caregivers who felt more distant from their loved ones.

Ask for details

Here are some tips to implement reminiscence therapy. Most center on asking questions that may help prompt older adults to reminisce about holiday-themed memories. For example:

• What were your family traditions around the holidays when you were growing up?

• Did you have a Christmas tree? When and who would decorate it?

• Were there particular foods you would make and eat around the holidays?

• Did you ever travel for the holidays?

• What was your first holiday season with your spouse like?

• What were your holiday traditions when you were a parent?

• What is your favorite New Year's Eve memory?

Be an attentive listener. Make eye contact with your loved one, and angle your body toward theirs so that they know they have your undivided attention. Ask follow-up questions when appropriate. This indicates to your loved one that you heard what they said and are interested to know more.

Engage your loved one in low-impact activities that engage multiple senses. For example, baking holiday-themed cookies can elicit memories through touch (rolling out dough, decorating), smell (of ingredients, while baking), and taste (of the finished product).

Encourage your loved ones to be mindful of their sensory experience at each stage of the activity and ask them about any memories that the sensation might bring to mind. Use visual aids to help with prompting retrieval of memories, such as pictures of past holiday events.

Pictures can prompt older adults of specific past events.

Listening to holiday-themed music while baking will also engage the auditory part of the brain. A 2013 study of research on music therapy for dementia concluded that music therapy can be a useful intervention in its own right.

We hope you give reminiscence therapy a try this holiday season, and from a safe distance, of course. It may just be the start of a new family tradition.

Michael Nadorff
is a tenured associate professor in psychology at Mississippi State University and a licensed psychologist in Mississippi. He has directed the clinical 
psychology doctoral program at Mississippi State University since 2014.
 Mary E. Dozier is a clinical psychologist with interests in gerontology. She specializes in the assessment and treatment of geriatric hoarding disorder.

This piece was published in cooperation with The Conversation, an independent, nonprofit publisher of commentary and analysis, authored by academics on timely topics related to their research.

This column does not necessarily reflect the views of the JFP.

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